ARE YOU in an Unhealthy Relationship? Psychologist reveals 5 signs, and how they affect your happiness and confidence.

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00:00 - What is a healthy relationship?
00:49 - Sign 1: Independent Identities
Dr Suri talks about the importance of maintaining independent identity in a relationship. Doing things together as a couple is romantic and exciting, but your relationship with yourself should still come first. Being in a relationship doesn’t mean that you have to lose your independence. Dr Suri shares examples to highlight why independent identities are important in a healthy relationship, and how they affect your happiness.

When your identity starts to merge with your partner’s identity, it leads to a co-dependent relationship. A codependent relationship can mask insecurities and fears of abandonment, but is also a sign of toxic relationship. Codependent relationships encourage being dependent on your partner to keep you stuck in a relationship. It’s the difference between needing someone vs wanting someone.

02:50 - Sign 2: Trust (or lack there of)
Dr Suri shares why trust issues are damaging to a relationship. Even small signs of the lack of trust in a relationship can make it difficult for couples to emotionally open-up and be vulnerable. If you don’t trust your partner, you can’t fully share your emotions with them. Having the trust that your partner can emotionally comfort you and will not hurt you is important to build a healthy relationship. So rather than being defensive, start why there are unhealthy trust issues in your relationship, and talk about them with your partner for a better foundation for your relationship.

04:27 - Sign 3: Emotional incompatibility
Lack of emotional compatibility is a big sign of an unhealthy relationship. When people think of healthy vs unhealthy relationship characteristics, they often don’t recognize emotional incompatibility. But having compatible emotional needs and intelligence is important for a healthy relationship, so you can feel understood and loved.

Psychologist Suri talks about the common defense mechanisms that couples engage in when facing the reality of being stuck in an emotionally incompatible relationship. The first is gaslighting, which means dismissing someone’s experience in order to manipulate them. Self-gaslighting is where you dismiss your own emotions so you don’t have to face an uncomfortable reality. Minimization is another defense mechanism where couples minimize the importance of their experiences to avoid uncomfortable relationships. Sometimes, couples get trapped in intent vs impact gap where they try to dismiss their own emotional hurt or negative experiences by focusing on their partner’s good intentions. These are all signs of an unhealthy relationship.

Denial about being in a toxic relationship is only going to be more hurtful.

08:05 - Sign 4: Controlling or manipulative behavior
Controlling or manipulative behavior in a relationship damages your confidence and your self-concepts. These manipulations can be subtle such as making you feel guilty and making you doubt yourself. Such subtle manipulations make you unsure of yourself and molds you into who your partner wants you to be. Controlling behavior is one of the biggest signs of a toxic relationship.

09:20 - Sign 5: Being stubborn in a relationship
Stubbornness in a relationship can be a sign of an unhealthy relationship. If your partner believes that they are always right, or they always have to get their way, then your desires become secondary to them. Such unhealthy behavior creates a power imbalance in your relationship, as you start to believe that you are secondary to your partner. For a relationship to be healthy, it has to be a balanced relationship. Healthy relationships are where both partners have an awareness about their strengths and weaknesses.

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