In this enlightening video, renowned psychologist Dr. Becky Spelman dives deep into the nuanced world of "Nice Guy" (Covert) narcissism. While they may come across as the perfect partners, attentive and caring, there are subtle signs that all may not be as it seems. Dr. Spelman expertly decodes the behaviors, patterns, and motivations behind these individuals, helping viewers to distinguish genuine kindness from manipulative tactics. Drawing from years of clinical experience and research, Dr. Spelman provides real-life examples, warning signs to watch out for, and advice on how to protect oneself from falling into the 'Nice Guy' narcissist's web. Whether you've experienced this firsthand, know someone who has, or are just keen to understand the psyche of such individuals, this video is a must-watch. Don't forget to like, share, and subscribe for more insightful psychological content!

00:00 - What is a "Nice Guy" (Covert) narcissist?

01:18 - Sign # 1 Excessive Flattery
He frequently showers you with compliments, often to an exaggerated degree. Love bombing stage is particularly strong.

02:29 - Sign # 2 Charming Persona
He comes across as extremely charming and likable, especially in social situations. He is a people pleaser.

03:00 - Sign # 3 Hold Self Image
Despite appearing humble, he secretly holds an inflated view of him being superior to you and self entitlement mixed with deep insecurities.

03:24 - Sign # 4 Inconsistent Behaviour
He can switch between being overly accommodating and charming to critical or dismissive. Unpredictable and unreliable at times.

04:31 - Sign # 5 Manipulative Kindness
He uses acts of kindness and generosity as a means to gain your trust and control.

06:24 - Sign # 6 Seeking Praise
He constantly seeks praise and validation for his actions and behavior.

06:48 - Sign # 7 Martyr Complex
He may play the victim or portray himself as self-sacrificing while subtly demanding attention and gratitude.

08:16 - Sign # 8 Inability to Handle Criticism
He reacts strongly to any criticism, becoming defensive or hurt.

09:07 - Sign # 9 Gaslighting Tendencies
He may subtly manipulate situations or conversations to make you doubt your own perceptions. It’s subtle as he can’t be directly mean as he’s the nice guy.

10:30 - Sign # 10 Boundary Violation
He often crosses your personal boundaries, disregarding your privacy or autonomy. Because he doesn’t care about your space.

12:12 - Sign # 11 Triangulation
He may involve third parties, such as friends or family, to create jealousy and insecurity in the relationship. Starting new relationships before one has fully ended yet.

13:47 - Sign # 12 Narcissistic Rage
Underneath the "nice guy" facade, he can display intense anger or aggression when his ego is threatened. But because he’s the nice guy he will often be aggressive rather than passive aggressive.

14:34 - Sign # 13 Conditional Love
His affection and kindness may come with strings attached, requiring you to meet his emotional or material needs. Finally taken advantage of by the nice guy narcissist.

16:06 - Closing Thoughts

It's important to remember that narcissistic traits can exist on a spectrum, and not all individuals who display these traits have Narcissistic Personality Disorder (NPD). If you suspect you are in a relationship with a "nice guy" narcissist and it's causing emotional harm, seeking guidance from a therapist or counselor can be beneficial in navigating the situation and exploring healthier options.

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Dr. Becky Spelman is a top Psychologist in London, Becky is the Clinic Director for Private Therapy Clinic which has clinic's based all around central London including; Harley Street, Wigmore Street, Bank, Earls Court & Canary Wharf. Becky uses Psychodynamic Therapy, Cognitive Behavioural Therapy (CBT), Eye Movement Desensitisation Reprocessing, Dialectical Behaviour Therapy (DBT) and Mindfulness to treat a range of difficulties with a particular interest in Borderline Personality Disorder and the difficulties that go with this condition such as relationship difficulties, anxiety, depression, low-self esteem, social anxiety, fear of public speaking, fear of intimacy, interpersonal difficulties, anger, body image issues, eating disorders and addictions.

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