Frustration is perceived as narcissistic injury or even mortification. It breeds intolerable anxiety and stress which result in decompensation, emotional dysregulation (BPD self-state), and acting out (secondary psychopathic self-state).

Low frustration threshold and tolerance lead to desperate attempts to eliminate the source via externalized and reckless aggression culminating in violence (coercive snapshotting).

Narcissist perceives frustration as emanating from the inside. His aggression is actually an attempt to reduce dissonance and anxiety.

Walking away won’t do the trick because narcissists interact exclusively with internal objects, dehumanizing and objectifying others.

The BPD self-state is impulsive and destructive (temper tantrum). The psychopathic one is cold, premeditated, ruthless, callous, relentless, inhumanly dysempathic. But both of them are fantasy-oriented and involve an impaired reality testing.

Psychopathic state preceded by a covert state: ponderous, brooding, spiteful, passive-aggressive, bitter, determined, evasive, overly polite (pseudo-civility), affected, ostentatiously obedient or caring. Keeps imagining the act.

Borderline state either sudden (eruptive with calm before the storm) or escalatory.

Alloplastic defenses justify the aggression. An external locus of control (you made me do it) aggravates the antisocial behaviors.

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