The toxic world self help industry and motivational videos is actually hurting you - Your growth and relationships.

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00:00 - Dark side of personal development
The toxic world of self-help and motivational videos is hurting your relationships and your personal development journey. You need to separate your personal growth from the feel-good videos, that fill you with hope and optimism, but don't provide any actionable advice. They sell you on dreams, without teaching you how to get to those dreams.

01:02 - Capitalizing on your pain (selling you the dreams)
The self-help video industry capitalizes on your pain. You seek these motivational videos when you are hurting in relationships or are feeling stuck in life. In such moments of desperation, these fake gurus take advantage of your desperation by selling you on easy fixes to your problem. These motivational videos bring temporary relief but no long-term solutions. They bring short-term optimism and motivation, but don't teach you the lasting skills of resilience and discipline.

04:18 - Keeping you coming for more (psychological dependence)
The relief that you experience from watch self-help videos, or the motivation you feel after watching a feel good inspirational contents is short-lived. When these positive emotions fade, your mind starts to crave more of such contents. This cycle develops a psychological dependence, where your brain becomes hooked on these videos. Whenever your motivation drops, you go back to the same creators and gurus to consume. It creates a cyclical demand for the dark self help industry.

This is why self help doesn't work, and can even be harmful. Often these toxic personal development videos tell you what you want to hear, rather than telling you what you want to hear because they want you to keep watching their videos. In the moment, it might bring you relief to hear exactly what you want to hear. But such contents might also close you off to other perspectives, which could hurt your relationships with your loved ones, and limit your personal growth.

07:31 - Is all self help bad or harmful?
This does not mean that all self-improvement contents are bad or harmful. There's a lot of good advice on Youtube and in personal development books. It's also important to not feel alone in your self growth journey. But all of this only matters if you make sure that your positive emotions when watching such videos are not tied to just feel good contents, but are also rooted in actionable and practical steps that will help you make progress towards your goals.

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