If you've ever found yourself in an argument with your spouse with little idea what youre arguing about; or in the uncomfortable position of knowing you overreacted to something but without the right words to get you and your partner back to normal, then psychotherapist and author Nancy Dreyfus has a tool that can help: TALK TO ME LIKE IM SOMEONE YOU LOVE.

In her book and in this segment, Dreyfus shows couples how they can transform moments of anger and disconnect into moments of trust, love and intimacy by using written messages. Dreyfus stumbled upon this revolutionary method while overseeing a particularly heated couples therapy session, and here she shares why and how it works.