0:00 my apology for 2 things in this video
2:00 WHY you never REALLY loved the narcissist
2:46 the obsession you feel is false
4:15 I asked Sam Vaknin and he said "my name is Sam Vaknin"
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5:00 the Shared Fantasy of relationships and the Blue Pill
7:07 Key word is "shared"
9:00 your sharing a sick fantasy, poisoned chalice
9:45 OF COURSE THEY INDUCE EMOTIONS!
10:44 Narcissist as Inverted Human/Mirror/Sauron
11:50 you are consenting to the sharing
12:15 Narcissist as "reaction cultivating machine"
13:24 Assume you feel the way they want you to feel
14:35 Funny story about Sean Connery lookalike
16:50 WE are submerged in THEIR fantasy of themselves
18:30 look at the hook, did you fuse with them?
19:10 The Narcissistic Contract in essence
20:10 what to do if you get angry with yourself during therapy
21:22 Chapter 2
22:30 I didnt love them like I thought
23:50 shared fantasy space is still there when its over
25:00 even therapy is a shared "game"
25:30 its a game of worship, not love
26:00 NOT everyone has the capacity to love
27:10 we LEARN to love through failing at the endeavour
28:20 Final point: you cant love someone you dont know
29:00 "the teenage crush on a popstar"
29:40 not in love, but lust - is bullshit
30:25 Nunu tingle
31:40 Narcissism rule: dominance or nothing