In today's video I describe the deeply embedded rule that the scapegoat child not know their strengths. An effective way of doing this is to add a caveat or 'yeah, but...' to signs of prowess and value. These caveats are convincing to the scapegoat child - especially when they operate unconsciously. Scapegoat survivors can persist this practice after childhood. I will offer an explanation - based on attachment theory - for why this happens. Last, I discuss how therapy can help you know it is now safe to stop caveating your strengths.

Growing Up as the Scapegoat to a Narcissistic Parent: A Guide to Healing
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