Jillian explores the concept of self-worth and its role in setting boundaries. Many people struggle with self-abandonment and fear of losing love, leading them to prioritize others' needs over their own. Jillian emphasizes the need to retrain our minds and beliefs about relationships, understanding that self-love and self-worth are essential for healthy connections. She encourages individuals to value themselves and their needs, while also being compassionate and understanding towards others.

Jillian delves into the topic of settling for breadcrumbs in relationships and the importance of not accepting less than what you deserve. She advises individuals to seek partners who are thrilled to be with them and to avoid relationships where they are not receiving the love and attention they desire.

The conversation also touches on the mirror effect in relationships, where the qualities we dislike in our partners often reflect aspects of ourselves that we have not fully embraced. Jillian encourages individuals to explore their own triggers and judgments, recognizing that they may be projecting their own insecurities onto their partners.

The interview concludes with a discussion on rebuilding trust in relationships and the importance of seeking professional help, such as therapy or counseling, when dealing with betrayal or ruptured foundations. Jillian emphasizes the need for transparency, loyalty, and open communication to rebuild trust.



0:00:00 How to set healthy boundaries
0:00:49 Why are boundaries important
0:02:04 Different types of boundaries
0:02:25 Weak vs rigid boundaries
0:04:21 Setting boundaries as rules
0:06:57 Identifying needs in relationship
0:08:30 Balancing love for others while maintaining self and autonomy
0:10:15 Self-worth and fear of losing love in relation to boundaries
0:12:39 Importance of self-love and unlearning sacrifice for love
0:15:36 Self-betrayal and restructuring views on relationships and love
0:16:41 Identifying settling for breadcrumbs and creating discernment
0:19:20 Shifting the paradigm and views on relationships
0:22:02 Recognizing the mirror in relationships and self-reflection
0:26:40 Knowing when to stay and work on the relationship
0:28:30 Evaluating shared values and future goals
0:29:14 Rebuilding safety and trust in a relationship
0:30:11 Importance of a third-party therapist or counselor
0:33:23 Relationships are a struggle for many people
0:34:30 Lack of education on choosing partners and healthy relating
0:35:19 Fear of abandonment and difficulty with grief in relationships
0:37:11 Pressure to have a perfect relationship and unrealistic expectations
0:38:58 Loving a flawed individual rather than seeking perfection
0:40:21 Transcending ego and fear