It's very common to be afraid to get married. After all, the divorce rate in the United States is about 50% these days.

With those statistics, we are well aware that marriages don't last forever, and we are risking possible divorce from the moment we say "I do".

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The relationship stage of dating and engagement should be a time of reflection of your relationship.

Especially in the engagement phase, it seems as though your relationship is under intense scrutiny to make sure that you and your significant other are compatible to be together forever.

People are also afraid to get married because life transitions are hard. It is scary to lose your identity of being single, and committing to one person who you are trusting will make your happy for the rest of your life.

You merge finances, lives, and families together with the intention that it will work out harmoniously. And what if you end up hurting the person you marry somehow?

That is a lot of pressure to put on yourself and is many times the reason people run for the hills when it comes to marriage.

What To Do If Marriage Scares You:

· Be honest with yourself about your fears

It's important to sort out your emotions and feelings in your mind so you can organize them as much as possible.

When we feel fear, often times our brains can feel overwhelmed with the influx of the emotion that we don't always know WHY we are afraid in the first place.
So having some alone time for self-reflection is extremely important.

· Be honest with your significant other about your fears

Keeping your fears hidden will only make things worse. In any relationship, honesty is important.

Don’t be afraid that you are going to hurt your partner's feelings because you're afraid to get married. Your fear is not about your partner; it is about you.

This is something you have to work on for yourself. And being in a partnership is all about getting support in your time of need.

· Get support from a trusted family member or friend

Sometimes our trusted loved ones have been there too, and it's helpful to get advice and guidance from people who understand or at least can empathize and have your best interest at heart.

· Let go of control

We cannot control so many aspects of our lives, and we will ultimately come into situations that are extremely difficult and terrifying. But making decisions based on fear instead of love is not healthy.

· Seek couples counselling

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Sometimes having a third party present can aid you in expressing your feelings in a healthy way, and making sure you are communicating with your significant other in the best way possible.

This way, you can get to the root of why you are afraid to get married and figure out how to navigate through the fear together.