How we view ourselves, other people, and the world around us has a huge impact on the emotions we feel, the choices we make, and the quality of the lives we lead. These are our perspectives, and they’re the foundation our lives are built on…which is why changing them is so freakin’ hard.

In this episode,@RickHansonand I explore what perspectives are, what a healthy perspective looks like in practice, and how we can deliberately change our perspectives over time. Specific topics include unpacking where perspectives come from, getting better at identifying when a perspective starts to affect our behavior, and thinking of ourselves as “rivers” rather than “rocks.” By the end of this episode, you’ll learn the key skills you need to change the views that have been holding you back.

Key Topics:
0:00 Introduction and info on Rick’s Neurodharma course
2:00 Aspects of the kind of perspective we’re talking about
5:00 Change, being grounded in reality, and self-compassion
12:35 Fixed perspectives, fear, and a few examples from Rick
20:00 Shame, and conflict with others due to changes in behavior
22:55 Lack of self-confidence leading to rigidity
25:20 De-centering, joy, viewing yourself as a river, and playfulness
31:15 Roleplay, and asking ‘what if?’
34:55 Inquiring into how our perspectives are constructed
43:50 Emotional imagination, and retelling your story
47:10 How our values and aspirations drive our perspective
52:30 Asking which perspectives support what’s important to you
54:20 Recap

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