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Complete transcript:
This is what relationship hypervigilance looks like...

Partner: You forgot to do the laundry I left out
I'm gonna do it, I have nothing left to wear.

Self: Oh my god I'm so sorry. I totally forgot because I was at work late and then I got a call from my sister and I had to help her out. And I really should have remembered, but I didn't. It's completely my fault. I'm an idiot.

Partner: It's fine I know you had a lot going on. I'm just going to throw these in.

Self: No, no, no I'll do it I've got it. I should have done it in the first place, just go sit down.

Partner: It's fine like I said. I'm just gonna go do it.

Self: (emotional monitoring) Are you mad at me?

Partner: I already told you it's fine. I understand you have a lot going on. So no I'm not mad.

Self: (lack of trust that it really is okay) Okay I'm just making sure. I really didn't mean it. I'm really sorry. I shouldn't have taken that call from my sister. I should have just done the laundry.

Partner: It's really not a big deal.

Self: Alright do you want to watch a movie?

Partner: I have some work to catch up on.

Self: (Racing thoughts around someone being mad at you).