Marriage 101 Series: Episode 04 - Crucial Questions to Ask a Potential Spouse Before Marriage

In this episode, I address a matter that always comes up from both brothers and sisters when trying to find a spouse and that is, "how do I really get to know the reality of someone just by asking them questions?"

The simple answer is, that only Allah truly knows the true reality, however in this video I mention several questions that you may ask in order to find out exactly what you need to find out about someone and make an informed decision about whether or not you can see yourself living with this person and building a life with them.

Before I get into the actual questions, I give some key advices and guidelines on the questioning process itself. Basically, the dos and donts as it pertains to the questions you ask and the answers you receive.

I then break down the actual questions into 6 different categories with each category having several examples of questions. The idea behind this categorization was to try and cover the different aspects of marriage life.

The categories are as follows:

1. Questions that will tell you about someone’s personality

2. Questions that will tell you about someone’s mentality

3. Questions that will tell you about their family dynamic

4. Questions that will tell you about someone’s philosophy in raising children

5. Questions that will tell you about someone’s beliefs as it pertains to the religion

6. Scenario specific questions (instead of open ended questions) that will have the other person answer in detail and reveal how they would behave in certain circumstances