100 Life Lessons , Lesson No1


Seeking to understand before being understood is a crucial life lesson that can greatly improve our communication skills. In this video, we explore the importance of listening with the intent to understand, rather than just replying. By understanding someone else's perspective, we can enhance our ability to communicate effectively and make others feel valued and heard. #communication #lifeskills #understanding #listening #perspective #empathy #respect


The speaker introduces a "life lesson" that has the potential to change your life by enhancing your communication skills. He credits the lesson to author Stephen Covey's "success principles."
Life Lesson #1 - Seek First to Understand Before Being Understood
- This means making an effort to understand the other person's perspective before trying to get your own point across.
- It's about listening to understand, not just to reply. Ask questions first.
- This can be difficult because we naturally want to get our own perspective across first.
- But if you understand the other person first, they will be more likely to understand you.
- Take notes if needed to remember your key points while listening.
- Repeat back what the person said to show you understand them. This makes people feel valued and respected.
Importance of This Life Lesson
- Better communication can help you achieve more personally and professionally.
- It can improve your relationships with others - business contacts, friends, family members, kids.
- With the information overload of today's world, this principle helps filter that and reduce stress.
Overall this core lesson is about the power of empathy, listening, and understanding in communication. The speaker promises it can lead to dramatic positive changes.