🔹Turning Points & Non-Negotiables🔹
Recently, during a call with our Rebuild community—betrayers who've chosen to take full responsibility (there’s no shaming or blaming but we’re not easy on them either)—I encountered a profound moment. A new member questioned, “How do I know I won’t do it again?” It's a pivotal question many face when trying to mend past mistakes.
I shared with her the concept of non-negotiables—those boundaries so firm that nothing can disrupt them. This reminded me of a lesson I shared from an old blog post: being 100% committed is surprisingly easier than being 99% committed. When something is truly non-negotiable, there's no room for exceptions.
Why? Because that 1% of leeway can make it harder to stick to your decision. For example, deciding that you won’t have cookies means not having to wrestle with decisions every time a cookie appears. It’s simply not an option—whether it’s a regular Tuesday or your birthday.
To trust yourself again and to become someone you’re proud of, establishing non-negotiables is crucial. They are essential not only in the work of self-repair but also in ensuring that old patterns don’t repeat.
Whether you’re working on rebuilding yourself or your relationships, consider what your non-negotiables might be. Setting these firm boundaries can actually make life simpler and your path forward clearer.
🌟 If this resonates with you, or if you've experienced how setting non-negotiables has helped your journey, I’d love to hear from you!