From the moment we are born, we straddle two sets of contradicting needs: the need for security and the need for freedom. They spring from different sources and pull us in different directions. And the issue today is that we want to reconcile this tension in our romantic relationships and in many other facets of our lives.

Control, for many, means choosing one or the other: security or freedom. The fact is we need both. Because we desire the security of belonging—whether to a person, a job, or a community—and the freedom to explore other options, we often find ourselves acting out of our internal contradictions.

What I’ve observed is this: people want partnership and a deep lasting love, but they also want relationships that should also be revocable at any time. So, let me ask you: at this very moment, do you crave a foundation or wings?

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