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How to speak softly and elegantly

1) Pace/Slow

- Take your time
- Slow down your speech and articulate your words clearly
- Speaking too quickly can make you sound anxious or excited, which is not conducive to an elegant and soft-spoken image
- Pauses: give your words more weight and thoughtfulness
- Enunciate clearly. Mumbled speech can come across as less polished or refined
- Example: Avoid Filler Words - stop buying time, rather pause - unnecessary filler words like "um", "like", "you know", etc.

2) Don’t Gossip

- Speaking ill of others can make you seem ungracious and it's not part of an elegant conversation style.


3) Cadence and rhythm, use a measured tone

4) Use of Hand gestures

5) Emotion, voice modulation, intonation (giving stress)

- Using a monotone voice can be boring for listeners
- Try to vary your pitch and volume to emphasize certain points and keep your audience engaged.

6) Don’t be loud or raise voice

7) Using titles and names

8) Practice Empathy and Active Listening

- Show empathy towards the person you're speaking with and demonstrate that you are genuinely interested in what they are saying (ACTIVE LISTENING). Respond appropriately to their statements or questions.
- Respect the other person's turn to speak. NO Interrupting others.

9) Be Authentic

- Authenticity is elegant
- Avoid putting on a fake accent or persona
- Being true to yourself will make your words more genuine and impactful.

10) Choice of words - Never curse

- Use respectful and polite language - never curse, swear
- Avoid slangs, offensive terms,
- an extensive vocabulary allows you to express your thoughts more precisely and elegantly and with nuance. Read widely, learn new words, and understand their correct usage
- simple, Clear Language: While it's good to have a broad vocabulary, it's also important not to overcomplicate things unnecessarily. Let everyone understand.

11) Body Language

- Maintain good posture
- Maintain eye contact when speaking - BUT DON’T STARE
- Non-verbal cues can greatly impact how your speech is perceived

12) Be Appreciative and Grateful

- Remember to show appreciation and gratitude when appropriate
- Saying thank you, giving compliments, and acknowledging others' efforts contribute to elegant and kind communication.

13) Be Confident

- Confidence is attractive and often perceived as elegant
- Believe in what you say and convey it with conviction. But remember, there's a fine line between confidence and arrogance.