Affection can be dangerous, this is some of the surprising and even shocking advice the Buddha gives in the early suttas. I'll look at what the Buddha said about some of affection's problematic role in lay and monastic life, as well as its ties to attachment and hatred.

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✅ Videos mentioned:
Superiority of Solitude in Early Buddhism: The Rhinoceros Sutta —    • Superiority of Solitude in Early Budd...  
Playlist on the four Brahmavihāras (Lovingkindness, Compassion, etc.) --    • Lovingkindness and Related Buddhist P...  
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✅ Suttas mentioned:
https://suttacentral.net/snp1.3/en/su...
https://suttacentral.net/mn122/en/sujato
https://suttacentral.net/snp1.8/en/su...
https://suttacentral.net/an5.250/en/s...
https://suttacentral.net/an4.200/en/s...
https://suttacentral.net/ud8.8/en/sujato
https://suttacentral.net/snp1.2/en/su...
https://suttacentral.net/sn1.12/en/su...

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00:00 Intro
01:01 Solitude and monasticism
02:31 Affection in lay life
06:07 Affection’s ties to hatred
07:52 Drawbacks of monastic affection
09:09 Affection and attachment
09:52 Affection and lovingkindess

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