I am so excited to have my pal, psychologist and couples therapist, Dr. Tracy Dalgleish on the show to talk all about relationships.

She is such an original thinker and I love the way she presents information on Instagram (@drtracyd) because it's accessible. Her book, I Didn't Sign Up For This: A Couples Therapist Shares Real-Life Stories of Breaking Patterns and Finding Joy In Relationships...Including Her Own, is full of wisdom for anyone trying to navigate challenges within their relationships.

We covered a ton during our conversation, and if you resonate with high-functioning codependency or feel resentful of having to do it all, you'll want to listen as we touch on this throughout. (Because no surprise, we've both been there!)

Time Stamps
0:00 - Quote from Dr. Tracy
0:29 - Introduction from Terri
3:36 - Most problematic patterns in relationships
5:30 - What we learn in childhood
7:55 - The pursuer role
11:42 - Bids for connection - what's reasonable?
14:30 - Communicating constructively
17:30 - How defensiveness impacts relationships
20:18 - What if your partner doesn't want to do the work?
24:00 - Codependent relationships
31:19 - Letting your partner struggle
35:46 - Setting boundaries
38:35 - Dr. Tracy's boundary struggle

Mentioned
Dr. Harriet Lerner's book, The Dance of Anger
My appearance on Dr. Tracy's show: https://podcasts.apple.com/ca/podcast...

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About Dr. Tracy Dalgleish
Dr. Tracy Dalgleish is a psychologist and couples therapist in Ottawa. For nearly two decades, Dr. Tracy has provided direct clinical services as well as researching, writing, and speaking about relationships. She provides psychotherapy, coaching for individuals and couples, and corporate wellness seminars.

Dr. Tracy makes clinical knowledge and research accessible to people through her contributions to popular media sites, including Times, Forbes, and Motherly. She is also the host of the podcast, "I'm Not Your Shrink" and author of her debut book, “I Didn’t Sign Up for This: A couples therapist shares real-life stories of breaking patterns and finding joy in relationships... including her own.”

She offers online webinars and trainings to people all over the world. A mom of two young children and owner of Ottawa’s mental health clinic, Integrated Wellness, she knows what it means to balance the full load.

Instagram:   / drtracyd  

About Terri Cole
Terri Cole is a licensed psychotherapist, global relationship and empowerment expert, and the author of Boundary Boss-The Essential Guide to Talk True, Be Seen and (Finally) Live Free.

For over two decades, Terri has worked with a diverse group of clients that includes everyone from stay-at-home moms to celebrities and Fortune 500 CEOs.

She has a gift for making complex psychological concepts accessible and actionable so that clients and students achieve sustainable change. She inspires over 450,000 people weekly through her blog, social media platform, signature courses, and her popular podcast, The Terri Cole Show. For more, see https://www.terricole.com/

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