I am so excited to have Dr. Ramani on the show today to discuss concepts from her new book, It's Not You: How to Identify and Heal from Narcissistic People. Many of you are likely familiar with her work, and for good reason- she is a brilliant clinician who breaks down narcissism in an accessible way, which helps people heal.

I've been a fan of hers for years and I am thrilled to bring you this conversation where we explore everything ranging from how narcissists are made, the impact of love bombing on victims, how narcissistic supply works and what it is, the difference between narcissism and Narcissistic Personality Disorder, and what the healing process looks like.

I hope you enjoy this conversation as much as I did.

Time Stamps
0:00 - Quote from Dr. Ramani
0:38 - Introduction from Terri
4:12 - Interest in narcissism
6:44 - Impact on victims
9:06 - Love bombing
11:40 - Narcissistic supply
13:34 - Supply & being upset
15:03 - Spotlight on narcissism
20:03 - Narcissism & narcissistic personality disorder
23:57 - Process of diagnosis
29:10 - How narcissists are made
33:19 - Healing process
38:42 - Dr. Ramani's biggest boundary struggle

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About Dr. Ramani
Dr. Ramani Durvasula is a licensed clinical psychologist in Los Angeles, CA, Professor Emerita of Psychology at California State University, Los Angeles, and the Founder and CEO of LUNA Education, Training & Consulting, a company focused on educating individuals, clinicians and businesses/institutions on the impact of narcissistic personality styles. Her academic research was focused on the impact of personality and personality disorders on health and behavior.

Dr. Durvasula is a faculty member for the APA Leadership Institute for Women in Psychology, and a consulting editor for the journal Behavioral Medicine. She has spoken widely on the impact of narcissism on mental health, relationships and the workplace. She also operates a popular YouTube channel and podcast (Navigating Narcissism). Dr. Durvasula is also working with PESI on the development of an educational and certification program for clinicians working with clients experiencing the fallout of narcissistic relationships.

Website: https://doctorramani.com
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YouTube: @doctorramani
Narcissistic Abuse Healing Program: https://doctor-ramani.teachable.com/p...
Includes: 3 virtual events / month, 3 journal prompts / week, access to an online community + much more

About Terri Cole
Terri Cole is a licensed psychotherapist, global relationship and empowerment expert, and the author of Boundary Boss-The Essential Guide to Talk True, Be Seen and (Finally) Live Free.

For over two decades, Terri has worked with a diverse group of clients that includes everyone from stay-at-home moms to celebrities and Fortune 500 CEOs.

She has a gift for making complex psychological concepts accessible and actionable so that clients and students achieve sustainable change. She inspires over 450,000 people weekly through her blog, social media platform, signature courses, and her popular podcast, The Terri Cole Show. For more, see https://www.terricole.com/

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